I'm back after a very unexpected sad event in my life; but I'm glad of the discussion that followed even if I couldn't read it at the time. It's so very interesting, specially the aspects that every reader brings to the discussion which shows that we all see the same words and apply them, or think of them, or follow them in different ways. To start I have a comment separate from the Michelle's books discussion.
Aquilegia, I met the flower of your name about 2 generations ago (about 50 years). I fell in love with them and used to plant them in my yards; they are truly lovely. Now, they are a reminder. I'll do my best to have them again in my yard this summer even if they are in containers.
I'll go first to those who spoke about the fiefs, and the fief names. It's real bad that Michelle does not like maps in her books (she did say that years and years ago when I (I think) and others suggested maps to understand the fief's areas. If I remember correctly, at readers' request, she said either she does not like them or she doesn't know how to introduce them. I think, they should have been done in the first or second book, but now it's too late to adapt them to everything written. Do any of you remember that the fief left (I believe) to Nightshade was "lorded" by a woman. Nightshade never explained her but I was left with the idea that she could be Kaylin's mother and she sent Baby K. to Nightshade's fief to protect her. She also, later on sent a young Severn to help take care of the child. I don't think any reader would believe that the woman with her as a kid was her mother. N once mentioned that woman to Kaylin, but she has never come out in any book. We don't know if her fief is also attacked or with problems from the center of the fiefs. Unlike N's and Tiamaris fiefs, all the other fiefs are very unknown in the books; anything can happen in or out of them and can become a story for another book. But people from them should be coming to Elantra and doing things there. So far no, but eventually they need to come out and join the story; they need to do shopping in Elantra; some people must go there if just for shopping. Do any of you remember the picture of a woman in N's table. We know it's there but it hasn't come out again.
I agree that Anteela can't be older than N; she was one of the lost children. As for Nightshade possible interest in K, it could of many reasons. As a male he is obviously interested in her like many others, but in addition she wants/need her powers; and I think he knows much more about her or who she really is with those marks than what we have been told so far. He is very intelligent, has a loooong knowledge, possibly as good as the Arkon but from the Barrani point of view or history. He can work with the dragons, which other Barrani's can't. I'm not sure if his interest in K is romantic, or more is the survival of his species or the whole of Elantra and all the races. He for sure considers K as necessary and critical to all of them. He will do anything to assist her in her troubles because he knows she will be able to save everyone. He had expected her when she arrived in her fief, and I feel sure, he knew what she was going to be. His only mistake was he thought he could control her. There are many plenty adventures for all of them before the books are finished, and many mysteries still to be resolved.